I survived Catholic guilt, corporate burnout, and an abusive relationship. Opened a venue where safety was real, not performative. Now I help spaces build emotional, social, and physical safety through bobu. Not a coach. Just lived it.
I was born into silence. Not the quiet kind, but the kind built into laws, pulpits and family dinners. Malta didn't need to outlaw women like me. We simply didn't exist. For decades, I carried something I couldn't name: a kind of absence, a
"We're already a safe space." That's what the venue told us when we offered bobu training. I looked around. No visible signs. No clear protocols. Just vibes and good intentions. "So how do people know?" I asked. "Oh, we've
Every second you spend "processing" is a second they're wondering if home is safe anymore. Your child trusted you with something huge - their identity, their truth, their life. Every moment you hesitate, minimise, or doubt sends a message louder than words: "You're
LGBTQ+ safety
LGBTQ+ relationships face unique challenges that make emotional safety both critical and fragile. From identity manipulation to outing threats, red flags can be hard to spot. This guide covers warning signs specific to our community, plus practical strategies for building safe relationships
Safety
This isn’t a blog for safe little tips or polite conversations. In the bobu Arena, we call it like it is. Fear, harm, and neglect are real and waiting for someone else to fix them isn’t an option. Step in. Speak up. Take control.